A regular female reader, Devie, explained why she assumed my gender wrong.
“I guess I was misled primarily because 99% of the blogs I read are written by women and it was a quick generalization on my part since there was no mention of your gender.
Also, you're pretty considerate in letting others share their opinions and aren't overbearing with yours – a trait I've seen more frequently in women than men.”
Coming from a truthful person, intelligent debater, strong analyst and someone with in-depth knowledge of worldly affairs; the second paragraph is a great compliment for a blogger.
However after a little introspection and analysis of some fellow men, appreciation turned into apprehension. Agreed being overbearing is relative but inventor of relativity theory Albert Einstein once wrote
“When a man sits with a hot girl for an hour, it seems like a minute. But if he sits on a hot stove, a minute is longer than an hour. That is relativity.”
Do most men, if not all, are ‘hot stoves’ in debates?
Do most men, if not all, push a point to the extent of becoming overbearing?
Do you (men or women) find this remark disquieting?
Can we men take it as an honest feedback and attempt to change?
(Author’s Note: - Dear readers, usually your comments are better than my original posts; therefore I look forward to your comments. Keeping the sensitivity of the subject, consider posting comments as ‘Anonymous’ but tell your gender and most importantly be candid and frank.
Comment from Devie republished with her permission.)