tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1397334331072386353.post768430290162240014..comments2023-10-30T04:35:48.392-04:00Comments on Amrit Wadhwa: Secret to a Happy MarriageAmrithttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16023510703283897521noreply@blogger.comBlogger55125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1397334331072386353.post-7005689743553825052011-04-04T12:31:41.079-04:002011-04-04T12:31:41.079-04:00You have written well but what you think abt my ar...You have written well but what you think abt my article of secrets abt happy marriage life <br /><br /><br /><br />http://secretsofhappymarriage.blogspot.com/Innocent boyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04199253849321614482noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1397334331072386353.post-42983914669768064532011-03-17T10:39:31.721-04:002011-03-17T10:39:31.721-04:00There is no simple recipe for a happy life.I cant ...There is no simple recipe for a happy life.I cant understand this discovery.If so,mentally abnormal people will be happiest.They have the most delusions.<br />Happiness is not waiting at the end of the road.Learn to take it in tiny bites,all along.dr.antonyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16191095888228061156noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1397334331072386353.post-77263984508049431582011-03-17T10:04:12.639-04:002011-03-17T10:04:12.639-04:00I wish it were this simple :). Marriage is a huge ...I wish it were this simple :). Marriage is a huge gamble. In certain traits, it does not matter if you think differently, but for the most important decisions in life, both the partners must be on the same page. Communication, mutual respect and trust rate higher than love in my opinion. A good sense of humor helps tide bad times. And, when the going gets negative, keeping the positives in sight sometimes help a lot. Happiness is a mirage. Thou shall have it if thou makes an attempt to have it :).Rachnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02275266551382931603noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1397334331072386353.post-37105510212559378492011-03-14T00:47:40.496-04:002011-03-14T00:47:40.496-04:00he he he funny research I might say.
Rather than ...he he he funny research I might say. <br />Rather than a delusion, I'd say these qualities MUST be there in a spouse. Why to create a delusion and keep regretting when the truth doesn't match your delusions? :)Punamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00794029561273711202noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1397334331072386353.post-58361248791208661362011-03-13T16:44:32.287-04:002011-03-13T16:44:32.287-04:00@Destination Infinity,
Liked your comment. Those ...@Destination Infinity,<br /><br />Liked your comment. Those happy days…Thanks.<br /><br />@Jagdish Bali,<br /><br />Thanks.<br /><br />@Anonymous (DM)<br /><br />Yes. That is another aspect. Giving space to each other is important too. Thanks.<br /><br />@Meena,<br /><br />Thanks for comments. I agree about expectations. Marriage changes expectations.<br /><br />@hot girl,<br /><br />Thanks,<br /><br />@Sakshi,<br /><br />I could not stop smiling at your comment especially at finance part. I think you are happy just because you like to be happy <br />regardless of spouse’s wonderings.<br /><br />@Anjuli,<br /><br />Haha. Thanks. So no negative quality in your husband…. Haha! You see everything in positive light. Thanks for sharing your personal interesting aspect of life. <br /><br />@Tanishka,<br /><br />Wow. Very well said. When you love imperfections. Thanks.<br /><br />@Anupama,<br /><br />Thanks. Interesting input directly from interview on TV. Yes. I think if we keep an open and keep discovering spouse, chances are we will be happy.Amrithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16023510703283897521noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1397334331072386353.post-18010334508775174452011-03-13T05:02:29.122-04:002011-03-13T05:02:29.122-04:00Dear A,
Good Afternoon!
Love,respect, understand...Dear A,<br /> Good Afternoon!<br />Love,respect, understanding and accepting the partner as he/she is giving space works marriages work!<br />A thought provoking post!<br />Today I was watching an interview with a great personality on the TV scree.The person was telling even after thirty years of marraige they are rediscovering each other.<br />It was cool.<br />Wishing you a beautiful evening,<br /> Sasneham,<br /> Anuanupamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13377958701532875004noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1397334331072386353.post-30510657882342922632011-03-12T13:35:41.304-05:002011-03-12T13:35:41.304-05:00I don't completely agree on this one... I thin...I don't completely agree on this one... I think a relationship gets perfect when you begin to love the imperfections of other person... Just a thought.... :)Tanishkahttp://enjoyingimperfections.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1397334331072386353.post-9797180278691466022011-03-12T10:28:34.557-05:002011-03-12T10:28:34.557-05:00ha ha- so delusion is the answer :) I agree with N...ha ha- so delusion is the answer :) I agree with Nisha about 'having to work at it'- and of course, the delusion part helps. I know I'm totally 'in love' with my husband and I do see ALL his positive attributes- because after ALL these years, it is hard to find anything negative about him....aaah...could it be, I'm a bit delusional too :)Anjulihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16563616683370799899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1397334331072386353.post-21864524929574467292011-03-11T17:56:42.762-05:002011-03-11T17:56:42.762-05:00Like you stated in your post, I belong to the cate...Like you stated in your post, I belong to the category of people who stays happy for no particular reason and I guess our 9 year marriage is working just because the husband is always busy wondering why I am always happy? ;)<br /><br />"Those who inflated their partner’s assets also reported being more happily married" !!!! Seriously? I hope I am not reading too much into the study and they are just talking about the financial aspects *grins*<br /><br />Ps: Don't worry about the Count and me putting nonsensical comments at CB's place. No one expects us to be serious anyway :( :( The day we put sensible comments all of them mail to ask if we have caught some incurable deadly disease! sigh!Sakshihttp://crackedchronicles.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1397334331072386353.post-84290390267502840552011-03-11T02:56:55.038-05:002011-03-11T02:56:55.038-05:00thats such a new way to look at marriage. Personal...thats such a new way to look at marriage. Personally, I think expectations are raised so much by all th hype around marriage. I mean. we have arguments, different viewpoints and disagreements in all relationships, including friendships and parenting. But when it comes to marriage, the rules begin to change.. :-).. very well written, ANirvanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05801881963638441875noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1397334331072386353.post-38231085930333809002011-03-11T02:12:13.066-05:002011-03-11T02:12:13.066-05:00Javed Akhtar (Shabana Azmi's husband) once jok...Javed Akhtar (Shabana Azmi's husband) once jokingly said that the secret to their long lasting marriage is that they don't get to spend time together as they both are very busy in their professional carrier and hardly get time to get into arguments.<br /><br />I think there is a lot of depth in his statement.. <br /><br />Personally I feel any marriage/relationship goes through ups and down and it is how we deal on bad days matter..<br /><br />DMAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1397334331072386353.post-59600808384121607432011-03-10T22:23:52.938-05:002011-03-10T22:23:52.938-05:00Very interesting and useful.Very interesting and useful.JAGDISH BALIhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12672029642353990072noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1397334331072386353.post-91119290370041588552011-03-10T21:39:06.632-05:002011-03-10T21:39:06.632-05:00Marriages are happy if both the partners are under...Marriages are happy if both the partners are understanding and have mutual respect for each other. Otherwise, they are seen as 'those happy days' long after separation! <br /><br />Would you believe if I said that external hardship would make happy marriages? So, its better not to ask me this question :) <br /><br />Destination InfinityDestination Infinityhttp://www.destinationinfinity.orgnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1397334331072386353.post-88925894065004947512011-03-10T21:05:45.822-05:002011-03-10T21:05:45.822-05:00@Sana,
I see your points. Every day we find somet...@Sana,<br /><br />I see your points. Every day we find something new. Thanks.<br /><br />@PW,<br /><br />Fully agree with your about kindred spirit. Thanks for comments.<br /><br />@Baili,<br /><br />Good points. Unconditional love requires a foundation.<br /><br />@Raam Payari,<br /><br />Compliments work. And I compliment you for visiting here and keep coming back.<br /><br />@Haddock,<br /><br />Yes keeping low expectations is the best way. Thanks.<br /><br />@Emily,<br /><br />Thanks. I am trying to become delusional too Being unhappy and over analytical does not help. Thanks for reading feature.<br /><br />@Babli,<br /><br />No problem. Thanks for the comments and compliments.<br /><br />@Stranger,<br /><br />I think the logic here is being little delusional helps to accept the partner with pro and cons and without asking for any changes. Agree with you.<br /><br />@Vaish,<br /><br />Mutual understanding and expect Nothing….that sounds little extreme. But see your point Thanks.Amrithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16023510703283897521noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1397334331072386353.post-84466549845332687342011-03-10T21:04:57.303-05:002011-03-10T21:04:57.303-05:00@Shobha,
Thanks. Patient, caring and forgiving. ...@Shobha,<br /><br />Thanks. Patient, caring and forgiving. <br /><br />@Tanvi,<br /><br />Yes. Why fix if something is not broken. I think you never have to worry about this theory. I will send you an email.<br /><br />@Emillie,<br /><br />Thanks,<br /><br />@Rads,<br /><br />Theory is for normal couples where violence and abuse is not involved. Typical they exclude abnormal behavior from samples. But I see your points. Thanks.<br /><br />@Kiran,<br /><br />Thanks for the compliment. I will write more on this.<br /><br />@Harman,<br /><br />Thanks.<br /><br />@SM,<br /><br />Is not that a good statement. Happiness is a state of mind. I loved writing it.<br /><br />@Rama,<br /><br />Exactly you said – attitude towards life. That is what I tried to say..if someone is generally happy and married life is likely to be happy. Thanks.<br /><br />@Geeta,<br /><br />Thanks. I agree about second part. It could be other way. <br /><br />@Bedazzled,<br /><br />Thanks. There is no measure of happiness. They asked questions. Are you happy? Haha. That is what I say, happiness is abstract – cannot be measured.<br /><br />@BK,<br /><br />Really liked your joke.Amrithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16023510703283897521noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1397334331072386353.post-68061001944449615782011-03-10T21:04:01.206-05:002011-03-10T21:04:01.206-05:00@Insignia,
Yes this can be debated for a long tim...@Insignia,<br /><br />Yes this can be debated for a long time. I see your view point.<br /><br />@Nisha,<br /><br />Thanks. Yes I agree one has to constantly try to work on it.<br /><br />@Jyothi,<br /><br />Thanks. Work problem at work. Is it really possible? Wish there was a turn on/off switch.<br /><br />@Ria,<br /><br />You will do fine. The theory does not really address the other approaches. <br /><br />@Smita,<br /><br />Thanks. Best to ignore the bad points but hard to do.<br /><br />@Asma,<br /><br />Yes. Fully agree with you.<br /><br />@Shuchita,<br /><br />Okay. Thanks. Theory does not say there is only one way to be happy.<br /><br />@Whilwind,<br /><br />Yes. Similar view, friendship and respect. Accept your viewpoint. <br /><br />@Mangala,<br /><br />That is great insight from personal experience. Thanks. Very well captured.<br /><br />@Connectedsocialmedia,<br /><br />Thanks. Nice way to put delusional.<br /><br />@Raji,<br /><br />Thanks. Yes. Content is the key. Agree with your comments.<br /><br />@Suruchi,<br /><br />Agree three times Like your verse.Amrithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16023510703283897521noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1397334331072386353.post-5816190247960713292011-03-10T16:33:08.931-05:002011-03-10T16:33:08.931-05:00It's all in the mutual understanding and expec...It's all in the mutual understanding and expect nothing!Anuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07824164089499448242noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1397334331072386353.post-63035048695542032552011-03-10T14:34:58.061-05:002011-03-10T14:34:58.061-05:00Interesting post but dont understand the logic. Fo...Interesting post but dont understand the logic. For me married life is one of understanding and compromising. I love my partner knowing all the pros and cons about my partner. We give each other a lot of freedom too. <br /><br />I dont think my partner is the best and nor do I think, my partner feels I am the best. But we will stay with each other and no regrets from my side...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1397334331072386353.post-77074118391364179932011-03-10T14:11:57.243-05:002011-03-10T14:11:57.243-05:00I was extremely busy for past few months so I coul...I was extremely busy for past few months so I could not visit your blog. I haven't started writing a book.<br />Thanks for your lovely comment. <br />Nice to read your post after a long time. Wonderful.Urmihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11444733179920713322noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1397334331072386353.post-36157253661758726742011-03-10T14:04:09.461-05:002011-03-10T14:04:09.461-05:00I think delusional people are definitely happier. ...I think delusional people are definitely happier. In fact, if some of the style bloggers are anything to go by, just saying you're super-happy makes you happy. I think I'm always in the slightly-discontented realist camp, but I would like to be delusional!<br /><br />Great feature on NRI's blog by the way. I really enjoyed reading it and seeing your picture! And your first love story is on my reading list. Unfortunately I have to read about 50 articles of climate change first, but I promise I'll get to it...Emily, Ruby Slipper Journeyshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18071938485961109157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1397334331072386353.post-69418430051610210112011-03-10T14:03:41.373-05:002011-03-10T14:03:41.373-05:00Hi,,
thanks for comment on intermediary,,
i have w...Hi,,<br />thanks for comment on intermediary,,<br />i have written a new article to clarify more on your comment.<br />Will be waiting for your comment on this article.<br />thanks.smhttp://realityviews.blogspot.com/2011/03/understanding-due-diligence-observed-by.htmlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1397334331072386353.post-11633767216363362532011-03-10T12:17:41.391-05:002011-03-10T12:17:41.391-05:00There is some logic in that inflating the partner&...There is some logic in that inflating the partner's assets.<br />I think the main culprit is "expectations"Haddockhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11573906991666088642noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1397334331072386353.post-21690372785239953542011-03-10T10:40:20.191-05:002011-03-10T10:40:20.191-05:00I think compliments really work! :DI think compliments really work! :DRhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08566262501480000154noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1397334331072386353.post-49450686602154636832011-03-10T09:01:05.531-05:002011-03-10T09:01:05.531-05:00i think problem starts from when we are not friend...i think problem starts from when we are not friend any more,friendship is a strong key to stay connected even you are husband.that way your love remains unconditionalbailihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06498012175058870980noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1397334331072386353.post-39155704572893415882011-03-10T08:23:31.506-05:002011-03-10T08:23:31.506-05:00I agree, love is just like happiness in that it al...I agree, love is just like happiness in that it also cannot be quantified and is largely a state of mind.<br /><br />Never one to be impressed by 'good' looks or wealth, I truly believe a kindred spirit is one of the things that make a good marriage.<br /><br />Thanks for another thought provoking post, I always enjoy reading your views on these matters.Felicity Grace Terryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17852843882007267665noreply@blogger.com